We really don’t have to be a “Psychic Friend” to predict the future. If you want to know what your future will be like, just take a look at the choices you are making today. Often we find that if we really take a hard look at our life, we will come to understand that if there is some situation in which we feel “stuck,” the trail of suspects on which to lay the blame can be traced right back to our own doorstep. There are no victims, only volunteers. The good news there is that if we got ourselves into the “mess” we can get ourselves out of it.
The first rule of “holes” is – if you are in one, STOP DIGGING! It’s always encouraging, really, to talk to a friend who is at the end of their rope with a situation that is making them miserable. The gift of desperation is quite a motivator to spark determination to make the necessary and difficult changes needed. It is also good to remember that the real work is an inside job. The happiest people I know are spiritual pioneers who approach from the inside-out because they know they make better choices when operating at a higher life condition. Ideally, happiness is a state of life, not a state of circumstances.
If you’re a regular reader of this blog you know that I am a big proponent of the scientific studies about happiness and do a lot of reading about how to make positive choices and training the brain to be “solution minded.”
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When I turned 30 about 10 years ago, a friend who was already 40 said to me, “30 is a great age! Life begins at 30!”
I was very encouraged to hear this because, frankly, I had been waiting for my life to begin. My birthday came and went and I waited… then it was the Spring… and then it was the Summer and then it was my birthday again and I was still waiting… well… you get the point.
Waiting for life to begin is like waiting for “Waiting for Godot,” the Samuel Beckett, “tragicomedy” in which two characters wait for someone named Godot, who never arrives. In the play, during their two days of waiting, the pair of men divert themselves with various distractions such as eating, sleeping, arguing, singing, playing games, exercising, exchanging hats and contemplating suicide — anything “to hold the terrible silence at bay,” they say.
Voted the most significant English language play of the 20th century in a British Royal National Theater poll of 800 playwrights, actors, directors and journalists, “Waiting For Godot” won such prestigious accolades because it spoke to a spiritual conundrum that many people face and pointed out the human tendency to occupy ourselves with distractions in order to avoid the real work that needs to be done when we take full responsibility for our lives.
